Chinese Marriage Culture
Ok I am going to first say that there are Chinese government agencies which are designed to protect asia
women from forced arranged marriages and I have heard they are actually more and more succesful at protecting beautiful asian women, unfortunately I do not know the names or how to contact them but be assured they exist. Second and perhaps not what you
want to here, china dating culture is not western culture it is very easy for us to judge from a moral value which is based
on a christian culture we have grown up in, but chinese culture and values are not the same. China mail order brides has some
difficult things to think about and you should be supporting her to make decisions based on what she thinks is right and what
her culture thinks is right not what a asia dating has percieved onto chinese as correct. There are many older chinese who
are the property of arranged marriage who have actually gone on to lead long full lives that have been happy. As opposed to
westerners who get to choose there own china girls but still have very high divorce rates. I know this is very taboo idea
but try to imagine that your values are what they really are only a product of your system, it is very hard to make right
or wrong, it is not science or maths. Sure some china penpals have been happy even in arranged marriages, but it is not
normal anymore, even in China, and if at least one of the asia penpals does not want to, it sounds like a bad idea to
me, and last but not least, some a mail order brides have also been very, very unhappy in arranged marriages. To be honest,
I am not sure you need to do anything. The woman herself has decided she is safe, and I don't see any reason to second
guess her. By all means tell her what assistance you can offer if she needs it, but beyond that? Maybe do some research on
local woman's organizations, but that would be difficult unless you are on the ground and speak Chinese. For imations
reply, yes I agree this is a cultural issue, but only to a degree. I did find that arranged marriages range the full spectrum
from suggestions from mild suggestions by the parents, to a series of meetings with potential spouses by the parents, to the
most extreme form: forced arranged marriages with no input from or choice by the son or daughter. In my reading the supporters
of arranged marriage, mentioned the same arguments you did lower divorce rate parents know better etc. They almost
universally did not condone forced arranged marriages, where force was used, and the daughter or son had no input. I did try
to locate some Asia girls organizations but this is very difficult as I do not know the language. Any additional
suggestions would be great and welcomed. I know that it is important that Single china women are able to at least eventually
communicate with her family this is extremely painful for her but as the other messages indicated it will take
time.
